How to find a solution

Submitted by Dave on Sat, 01/07/2017 - 12:04

With 7 children we get disagreements on a daily basis. Resolving the disagreements can be challenging, especially if no-one wants to give anything. A method that works for us, when we remember to use it, goes as follows:

  1. As a group, make a list of all the options we can think of that will solve the problem. It doesn't matter how crazy the ideas are.
  2. When you have the list, quickly discuss each idea. Some will be obviously not workable, others may have a bit more discussion.
  3. If an idea is not workable, remove it from the list.
  4. As a group, pick 1 idea to try as a solution to the problem

This doesn't work if everyone is screaming and yelling and not listening to each other, so there are some ground rules:

  • Everyone participates in the process in a respectful manner
  • If you choose not to be respectful, then you will not be able to participate
  • Be respectful, listen to each other's stories/reasoning
  • If you choose not to participate then the decision will be made without you

This doesn't always work, but it has lead to some quick conflict resolution in the past

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